Behaviour Management Considerations

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Behaviour Management Considerations

	A hundred and one concepts, understandings and principles to think about. If the foundation is not solid the building collapses. If the foundational principles of behaviour management are not sensible, clearly defined and easy to understand, the results will be an unstable building which will cause the inhabitants to become anxious and insecure. Many of these 'considerations' are expanded in our seminars and workshops.
	*CU001 - Boundaries and consequences should be clearly understood by parents and children*
	*CU002 - Children need to be encouraged*
	*CU003 - Praise the action or decision, not the child*
	*CU004 - Provide positive recognition when good choices are made*
	*CU005 - Never try and buy your child's affection*
	*CU006 - If what you are doing is not working, change what you are doing*
	*CU007 - Never treat your child as if they were the most important person in the home*
	*CU008 - Parents should have a 'presence' of authority, confidence, friendliness, assertiveness, empathy, strength, firmness and affection*
	*CU009 - Respect for parents ultimately leads to respect for themselves*
	*CU010 - If you are walking on egg shells with your child it shows they are at the top of the pecking order*
	*CU011 - Many toys can kill a child's creativity*
	*CU012 - A child is a smaller cog in the family machinery*
	*CU013 - Never punish in anger*
	*CU014 - Make rewards of educational value*
	*CU015 - Don't ignore inappropriate behaviour*
	*CU016 - What you allow you teach*
	*CU017 - Think before you speak or act - give yourself time to act from logic and reason not emotion*
	*CU018 - Managing behaviour should be time and cost effective*
	*CU019 - The marriage should be the main focus, not the child*
	*CU020 - Only give consequences when you are sure of what happened*
	*CU021 - Every child needs to know that they are accepted unconditionally*
	*CU022 - You can accept a child while not accepting inappropriate behaviour*
	*CU023 - Are you a good role model? Children learn by copying*
	*CU024 - Never threaten what you are not prepated to carry out*
	*CU025 - Children should primarily see themselves as a member of a family, not as an individual*
	*CU026 - Attitudes are not caught they are taught*
	*CU027 - Selfishness and pride are blockages to good behaviour management ... in parents and children*
	*CU028 - If you fight all your child's battles for them they will not learn survival skills*
	*CU029 - Responsibility is never learnt without much self-denial*
	*CU030 - There are no perfect parents, no perfect families, and certainly no perfect children*
	*CU031 - Asking for forgiveness and forgiving are the cement that bonds families together*
	*CU032 - We can't lift someone up higher than we are ourselves*
	*CU033 - We never learn resilience without facing frustrations*
	*CU034 - Our expectations will often determine a child's behaviour*
	*CU035 - Children have a well developed sense of justice ... don't disappoint them*
	*CU036 - Be patient with childish irresponsibilities but never with defiance and rebellion*
	*CU037 - Children will not respect adults they can manipulate*
	*CU038 - What children say about how they feel is not necessarily so*
	*CU039 - The best consequences are natural or logical*
	*CU040 - There are no rights without responsibilities*
	*CU041 - Appeal to the child's better nature*
	*CU042 - Rules should be few but strictly enforced*
	*CU043 - Inconsistency creates frustration and insecurity*
	*CU044 - There is a tension in children between selfishness and security*
	*CU045 - Children need to be taught self-denial and to delay gratification*
	*CU046 - Keep your sense of humour ... it can sometimes defuse tense situations*
	*CU047 - After consequences are given out treat the child as if nothing has happened*
	*CU048 - Don't play favourites with your children*
	*CU049 - Be aware of the dangers and benefits of the 'ripple effect'*
	*CU050 - Honesty will serve your child better in life than a good education*
	*CU051 - You cannot work miracles ... only God can do that*
	*CU052 - Each person is unique and special ... don't make comparisons*
	*CU053 - Children can learn to behave differently in different social environments*
	*CU054 - Parents need to take care of themselves*
	*CU055 - It's 'until death do us part' not 'until children do us part' (John Rosemond)*
	*CU056 - Establish boundaries early ... at conception*
	*CU057 - Be authoritative not authoritarian*
	*CU058 - Equality leads to a lack of respect for authority*
	*CU059 - Children should not have greater access to you than your spouse*
	*CU060 - There is no respect for authority unless there is some fear*
	*- CU061Threat your child as an adult and they will expect the same privileges as one*
	*CU062 - Helping others will help children with their self-respect*
	*CU063 - Practice 'active listening' with your child ... it really helps*
	*CU064 - Health and fitness go hand in hand with good behaviour*
	*CU065 - Watch your emotions, children are good and reading body language*
	*CU066 - Routine, timetables, tidiness and organisation give children security*
	*CU067 - Do you really want your child to grow up to be like the characters they watch on television?*
	*CU068 - Encourage your child to copy gender appropriate roles ... make the distinction clear*
	*CU069 - 'I'm bored' really means 'I'm too lazy to be resourceful and find something to do'*
	*CU070 - Parents should never argue about managing behaviour in front of the children*
	*CU071 - Parents should provide a united front in managing behaviour*
	*CU072 - Children will give up when they know it is impossible to get what they want*
	*CU073 - Encourage and provide opportunities for children to share their ideas*
	*CU074 - In a truly democratic family, three children could outvote the parents on every issue ... the kids would rule*
	*CU075 - Don't believe everything your children tell you ... they are seeing things through many filters*
	*CU076 - Spanking, when done appropriately, is not child abuse ... in the long run you are being kind*
	*CU077 - Children learn to become freeloaders when they don't work around the home*
	*CU078 - Behaviour management should begin when children are still in the cradle*
	*CU079 - Don't change your management strategies when you have visitors or are away from home*
	*CU080 - Use common sense in managing behaviour*
	*CU081 - Since the 1950's new strategies for managing behaviour have been introduced ... and children are worse*
	*CU082 - A wrong understanding of self-esteem can really damage your child*
	*CU083 - Never listen to anyone talking about behaviour management unless you know their children are well adjusted and well behaved*
	*CU084 - 'For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth', shouldn't we the children we love*
	*CU085 - The three R's of child rearing are respect, responsibility and resourcefulness (John Rosemond)*
	*CU086 - Conscientiously supply all the needs of your child, but sparingly their wants*
	*CU087 - Children expect the parents to be in charge ... don't disappoint them*
	*CU088 - Show your child too much attention and they can become addicted to and dependent on it*
	*CU089 - How do you know when your child has enough self-esteem? ... you don't and your never will*
	*CU090 - The goal of child rearing is to prepare them to live independenly in a responsible manner*
	*CU091 - Children value themselves when they make a positive contribution to the family*
	*CU092 - The best form of family government is a benevolent dictatorship*
	*CU093 - Children will not respect their parents if the parents are not respectful to their parents*
	*CU094 - Don't jump in too soon to sort our quarrels between siblings*
	*CU095 - Don't allow a child to play one parent off against the other*
	*CU096 - Love will tolerate the strictest discipline*
	*CU097 - Your child will leave home before they become what you want them to be*
	*CU098 - Don't show off your children to other people*
	*CU099 - A child does not become a responsible citizen without effort and commitment from their parents*
	*CU100 - If you show your love to your child by showering them with gifts ... make sure they marry someone rich*
	*CU101 - Be a parent first and later become a friend ... it doesn't work the other way round*

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